connected, guts, rested, sleep, thriving
Lara Elfstrand
Tense, Release, Repeat: A Playful Guide to ...

One of my favorite ways to relax is to do a progressive muscle relaxation. To do a progressive muscle relaxation, you go through each body part, tense it, and then feel the difference as you relax it. So I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to teach kids how to do a progressive muscle relaxation. Here are my thoughts.

Tense, Release, Repeat: A Playful Guide to Kids’ Relaxation
connected, rested, thriving
Lara Elfstrand
Welcome to Little Elf Family Services!

Welcome to Little Elf Family Services! I’m Lara Elfstrand. I am a parent coach, and I am here to help parents to feel connected, rested, and thriving. I have a master’s degree in early childhood special education (and a clear teaching credential), and I am endorsed as an infant family advanced transdisciplinary mental health practitioner.

Welcome to Little Elf Family Services!
rested, connected, thriving, reflection
Lara Elfstrand
The Real Reason I Do This Business (Hint: It’s ...

I became a parent in 2007, and it changed me and my life completely.  I realized just how much a person changes when they become a parent.  It changed my values, my priorities, and my marriage!  The things I learned cannot be summarized in one blog post or even in one blog.  But here are just a few things that I would start with:

The Real Reason I Do This Business (Hint: It’s About You and Me)
baby, pregnancy
Lara Elfstrand
What is a Nesting Party? How to Host and How to ...

Nesting parties ask us to re-think the way that we celebrate new parents and challenge us to focus on what the expecting parents need. It’s really less of a party and more of an opportunity to provide the family help.

Unlike baby showers, “Nesting parties shift the focus from stuff to support to help families prepare their homes and hearts for life with a new baby,” explains Lara Elfstrand, the pediatric sleep practitioner of Little Elf Family Services. 

What is a Nesting Party? How to Host and How to Show Up
Lara Elfstrand
Welcome, 2025!

As I’m getting into the groove of things in the new year, I’m excited to look forward to what is ahead in 2025.  Three things that I’m focusing on for 2025: celebration, self compassion, and guts.

Welcome, 2025!

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Lessons on sleep training from one of my favorite teachers: Charlie "the dog" Elfstrand

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Lessons on sleep training from one of my favorite teachers: Charlie "the dog" Elfstrand

Lot of times people ask me about sleep training and “cry it out” methods, and I think that what is happening in my house right now is a great example of my beliefs and strategies as of March 2025. Keep in mind that I am scheduled to become a Circle of Security Facilitator (based on years of attachment research) in April 2025, so please stay tuned to see if or how that changes things!. From what I can tell so far, this fits really nicely.

TLDR: I am focused on coregulation, creating a sense of DEEP calm in my body that I can spread through singing and presence, observation of how much stimulation is helpful (or not!), and use a custom approach based on the individual.

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Secrets to supporting your child's sleep while traveling

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Secrets to supporting your child's sleep while traveling

Have a trip coming up with your children? Here are some things to keep in mind to keep everyone feeling rested and getting along!

First, set aside some time before the trip to make a plan. See if you can find out what the space will be like where you are traveling. Are there options that would allow each person to have their own space?

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Reading our baby's body language to know what they need (the 6 states of infant consciousness)

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Reading our baby's body language to know what they need (the 6 states of infant consciousness)

Today I am focusing a lot on practicing learning my dog's body language, and it's reminding me of how key it is for ALL parents to learn their child's body language.

For example, every new parent should (in my opinion) have a basic understanding of the 6 states of infant consciousness:

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Tricks for infant sleep that no one tells you

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Tricks for infant sleep that no one tells you

Lack of sleep has such a rollover effect on other areas of our relationships and our parenting. New parents often find that lack of sleep is the most difficult part of parenting. Nerves get frayed and patience gets short with ourselves, our partners, and our children. Especially in the middle of the night we end up saying things that we never thought we would say to each other. But my goal is for your relationships to fill you with happiness and stay that way for the long haul? So what can we do?

Resources:

Baby Registry

Sacramento Resources

Nationwide Resources

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