A lovey—sometimes called a comfort object—is more than just a cute stuffed animal or soft blanket. It’s a bridge between your child’s need for comfort and their growing ability to self-soothe. When introduced thoughtfully, a lovey can help your baby or toddler feel calm, connected, and ready for sleep.
Here’s how to make that introduction with care and intention.
1. Choose a Safe, Soothing Lovey
Pick something breathable and washable—like a muslin square or a soft, simple stuffed toy. Avoid anything with buttons or detachable parts, and if possible, buy a spare (or two!) so you’re ready if one gets lost or dirty.
2. Build the Emotional Connection
Before a lovey can comfort your child, it needs to feel like you.
Cuddle with it during feedings or story time so it picks up your scent and warmth. You might say, “This is Bunny. She loves to be with you while you sleep.” Let your little one hold and play with it during the day, too—connection grows through familiarity.
3. Introduce It at Bedtime
Once the lovey feels familiar, invite it into your bedtime routine. Hand it to your child gently and say something reassuring, like, “Bunny will stay with you while you rest.” Stay close the first few nights so your child associates the lovey with your comforting presence.
4. Reinforce the Sleep Association
Offer the lovey at naps and bedtime every day. If your child wakes at night, help them reconnect: “Here’s Bunny. You can snuggle her while you fall back asleep.” Over time, your child’s brain learns that this little friend means calm and safety.
5. Keep It Consistent
Wash the lovey as needed, but try to keep its familiar scent. Rotate backups so they all feel the same. The goal is to help your child form a secure, predictable association with their lovey—something that signals rest and reassurance.
A Gentle Reminder
Not every child connects with a lovey, and that’s okay! For those who do, it becomes a comforting symbol of love and security—a soft reminder that they are safe, even when you’re not right beside them.
