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It’s Safe to Go Slow: Jewelry as a Somatic Practice

Rings say "My needs matter" and "It's safe to go slow"

My rings say “My needs matter” and “It’s safe to go slow”

I am a learner. And what that means to me is that I am always in the process of growing, making mistakes, learning from them, and growing some more.

One of the ways that I support myself in that is that I love to have jewelry that reminds me of what I’m working on. Lately I’ve been making rings. Right now I have a ring that says “My needs matter” and another one that says “It’s safe to go slow.” I have another one arriving today that says “Slow supported noticing” because that’s what I worked on with my somatics coach this week. I have bracelets that say “Water your hormones” and “That felt… Could you rephrase that?” to use in situations where someone offended me or hurt my feelings. I also have one that says the Serenity Prayer: “Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

If you’re interested in trying my jewelry reminder strategy: Here are the rings I’ve been using. I’ve also made some of these bracelets. I find that the rings are harder for my eyes to see as I get older, but even just looking at them reminds me of what they say. Also I try to look carefully at the font choices so that I can see what might be more legible. I find the bracelets easier to read but harder to deal with them being around my wrist while I’m typing. You can fit more on a bracelet, and I've used ChatGPT to try to find phrasing that resonates with the smallest amount of characters. In order to start making rings, first I bought myself one of these ring sizers. Let me know if you decide to try it!

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A couple of days ago, I created a “Welcome to Little Elf Family Services” video. I thought it turned out decently well, and I posted it. I watched part of the captions and changed the spelling of “mountain cur” but only realized after I had posted the automated captions that they misspelled my name.

My name is Lara. It isn’t Laura. It’s like the state in Venezuela, like Superman’s mother, like Lara Croft, or Lara in the movie Dr. Zhivago (which is where it really comes from, although I honestly don’t know the story all that well).

So that got me thinking about mistakes. Mistakes are hard. They are challenging. And the way that we handle them matters.