A tool for remembering to increase positives

 

I found an app called “Lasting.” It is not by the Gottman Institute, but they say it is research tested strategies. I haven’t paid for the app, but by creating an account and doing the assessment it let me use their reminders. So multiple times a day, the app reminds me to check in with my hubby with fondness, affection, gratitude, etc. So far even without paying for the best of the content, this app is having a positive impact on my marriage. Check it out.  

An alternate perspective on the 5:1 ratio

While I don't think this is possible all the time, it's an interesting perspective about how to increase your family's positive to negative ratio.

Applying the ratio with our kids

Check out this video on applying the magic ratio with our kids. 

Small, intentional moments

"Small, intentional moments hold more weight than isolated, extravagant gestures when it comes to building emotional longevity in your relationship."

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The positive perspective

More on the 5:1 ratio from Dr. Gottman.  

Struggling with the terrible 2's?

When we have.more information about what to expect at different ages, it can help us to be more positive with our children.  

Check out these videos from Project ABC on dealing with difficult behavior in young children.

An Attitude of Gratitude and the 5:1 Ratio During the Holidays

"The perspective and practice of gratitude is essential to strengthening our relationships with those we love."

Check this out.  

Why the 5:1 ratio? And how can we get there?

Some strategies for attaining a 5:1 ratio in our families. 

Thinking of you: Another 5:1 Ratio Tool

Adding more positives to our relationships can be as simple as just saying "I'm thinking of you".  

Check out this article from the Gottman Institute.

Benefits of gratitude

 We know that gratitude is good for us. But why? 

The 5:1 Ratio Challenge: Vulnerability

I feel like you can't have a discussion on becoming more positive without including vulnerability in the mix.

Check out this TED Talk by Brené Brown.

Making gratitude a ritual is a great way to increase the 5:1 ratio in our lives

https://greatergood.berkeley.e du/gratitude/definition

Dr. Gottman speaks on the 5:1 ratio

Check out this YouTube video from Dr. Gottman here.  

Take the November 5:1 Ratio Challenge!

Research by The Gottman Institute shows that families thrive when there are 5 times more positives than negatives in our emotional bank accounts. Join me in taking the 5:1 ratio challenge to increase the number of positives in our relationships and to decrease the number of negatives.  What tools do we have in our toolboxes to do this? What are some things that you do that fill your family’s emotional bank accounts?

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November 2017 Challenge: The 5:1 Ratio

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