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Acknowledging what worked - celebrations for 2025

This 2025 client wins video highlights real progress families made this year. Small steps, big shifts, and moments worth celebrating. “Celebration” was one of my words of the year this past year, and this post is about pausing to acknowledge what worked for families and how hard my families have worked. These are families with children of ALL abilities. Let’s celebrate our wins!

Celebrate was one of my words of the year for 2025, so I am stopping to celebrate personal and client wins for the year. - Lara Elfstrand, Certified Pediatric Sleep Interventionist and Parent Coach

The Deals We Established... Sometimes They Gotta Change: Helping Kids Transition Through Routines

The Deals We Established... Sometimes They Gotta Change: Helping Kids Transition Through Routines

I think a lot about the deals we establish with our littles—babies and even dogs! They often find comfort and safety in familiar routines, which is crucial for their development. After all, we need to feel safe in order to learn.

But as they grow, sometimes we need to change the deal.

Take sleep, for example. When babies are new to the world, we often feed them to sleep. That’s developmentally appropriate and totally fine. But as they grow older, they may begin to rely on sucking (bottle, breast, pacifier, etc.) as the only way to fall asleep.

At that point, we may want to shift away from that habit. And here’s the key: anytime we want to decrease a behavior, we need to increase another one to take its place. Babies need to learn other soothing strategies that don’t involve sucking.

This means changing the deal. And that’s OK.